My journey to my Get was complicated.

My ex-husband was pretty much unavailable to discuss divorce during the process. I tried to get through somehow, and so did Esther Macner and other community leaders who were helping me, but the process really stalled.

The whole thing was so stressful.

Divorce and especially the Get process can be so overwhelming, sad, and emotional.

This story is shared in the Agunah’s own words and reflects her personal experiences. The views expressed do not necessarily represent the opinions or positions of Get Jewish Divorce Justice.

It was such a dark place.

I was constantly strategizing in my head. It was hard to put aside the whole Get issue and function, keeping up with my daily tasks and responsibilities.

She walked me through every step.

Esther Macner comforted me through the whole process. Whatever she said she would do, she’d do it immediately and report back to me.She really tried to walk me through the experience and what it will be like technically, but also emotionally.

I knew I could rely on her. 

I felt calm and supported through every single scenario. She shared her expertise in Law. She coached me about every possible outcome, talked me through my fears, walked me through, represented me, held my hands, made me feel calm, grounded and guided.

She understood the emotional repercussions.

She Zoom called when she was away. We had a situation where we thought my Ex was in Israel, and we may be able to get him to sign a Get there. She got people on a zoom call really fast. She has b connections. She gave me all the contacts of Rabbanim I needed. I got to the Rabbi who helped me through her. Her knowledge and resources are incredibly valuable.

I got my Get in the blink of an eye.

You must strengthen your Emunah. I was told so many times that Hashem will make everything happen, but only when I really let go and turned to Him, did I experience miracles.

I got to see really amazing Hashgacha Pratit. I was feeling like I was buried in extreme darkness and it didn’t feel like any progress was being made. If anything it felt like we were taking forty steps backwards.

There were six people involved in my Get - key people that I thought I needed that were really involved down to the last steps to get the Get to happen: The head of the Bait Din, the Rav in my city that was pressuring my Ex and his family to sign the Get, other people that were going to support me on the day I’d sign my Get. In my mind, I was relying on them to kind of facilitate the situation.

I received my Get when they were all out of town, Esther Macner included. I was feeling especially disheartened that day, knowing nothing was going to go forward until they returned. Then I got a call from a separate Bais Din, letting me know that an appointment had been made to sign a Get. It didn’t seem to make sense that I was able to have a same-day appointment, from phone call to Bais Din, and on the exact day none of my people were even in town, but on the day I received my get, Hashem said, “Watch Me!” and I got called in to sign the get, all alone, without any of them. Hashem was the one holding my hand.

Hashem was really showing me that yes, there are amazing people in this world that are shlichim to guide you through the tests in life, but at the end of the day when you fully rely on Hashem and you realize that nobody can help you but Him, that’s when the yeshua comes.

When I received my Get, I was definitely full of hakarat hatov… and shock; it all happened so fast, and I was really grateful to be coached for many months before by Esther and by many Rabbanim, and messengers that really were there to support me and guide me through it all.